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Welcome to DAY 15 of our online Bible study on Ephesians!

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DAY 15

Read: Ephesians 4:1-6

You are being way too nice.

Those words rang in my ears as I introduced my former husband to my parents’ neighbors before he took our son for the weekend for the first time in months. It was a clear, crisp Halloween night. Two couples had chosen to greet trick-or-treaters from their driveway. I’d prayed that they would head indoors before Nathan’s dad showed up. They hadn’t, and our driveways were too close together to justify a quick visitation exchange that didn’t include an introduction, so I did the polite thing and broke the awkward silence with “This is Nathan’s dad.”

I knew of at least one friend who would say, “You are being too nice.”

But I also knew that by being gracious, I was behaving the way God wanted me to.

You are being way too nice.

Those words echoed in my mind again when a debate threatened the peace of a Bible study that I was leading. My bolder friends would tell me that I needed to confront the instigator, even if she got mad and left the group. Instead I suggested that we stop and pray. No matter who was right or wrong, we were sisters in Christ. We had different views on some things but the same Savior. We loved each other too dearly to let this tear us apart (or even end on a sour note).

When that time of prayer resulted in teary hugs, I was glad that I’d opted for the “too nice” approach.

“Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love.” (Ephesians 4:2)

Paul’s plea in the first six verses of Ephesians reminds me that even early-church believers needed to be told to put their differences aside and get along.

His words also remind me why I’d rather err on the side of being “too nice,” especially when it comes to relationships with my brothers and sisters in Christ. I can’t recall a time when I’ve regretted being gracious.

Heavenly Father, thank you for setting an example
of gentleness even when standing firm. Forgive me for allowing
petty differences, anger, or my “rights” to override what Your Word says.
Help me to be an example of Your patience today. Amen.



~ Diving Deeper ~

Who can you extend a little extra kindness to today?


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Jeanette Hanscome

Jeanette is the author of six books, including "Suddenly Single Mom: 52 Messages of Hope, Grace, and Promise." Her best material comes from everyday life and her experiences as a mom of two incredible sons. She pours her leftover creativity into knitting, crocheting, singing, cooking, and baking. Jeanette was born with a rare genetic eye disease that causes total colorblindness, extreme light sensitivity, and vision in the legally blind range. But this hasn't hindered her from being an avid book nerd.

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