Welcome to DAY 20 of our online Bible study on Ephesians!
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Read: Ephesians 4:30-32
A few months ago, my five-year-old had a bad dream and found her way into my bed, just before I began to fall asleep. She nestled her head into that safe space on my chest right underneath my chin, and I started to tell her about how I would do the same thing when I was a little girl.
Emily knows my mom is gone now, living in heaven with Jesus, and she asks about her sometimes.
That night, snuggled into the crook of my neck, she asked me if my mommy taught me lessons like I teach her lessons. I smiled and told her yes, my mommy taught me all about how to be kind to other people — she was the kindest person I’d ever known, even to people who weren’t kind to her. She taught me about love and patience and what it means to have a quiet spirit. (Though I still don’t understand this concept, and neither does my bouncy, defiant daughter.)
Then Emily asked if my mommy ever yelled at me. I laughed a little and said no, I don’t remember my mommy ever yelling. She would get mad sometimes, but she was still always kind with her words. She loved me, even when she was upset.
And my precocious little girl said, “So, then, she probably wouldn’t like it when you yell at me, right?”
She’s good at those guilt trips, my kid.
In Ephesians, Paul tells us to be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving each other.
He even goes so far as to say that refusing to do these things actually grieves the Holy Spirit.
More than anything, I want my home to be a place where my children experience the love of Christ. And that means that I have to constantly seek His strength to live out these verses. On my own, I hold onto bitterness, I’m quick to become angry, I am unkind — without even trying!
But praise God for His Son, who gave His own life so that when we fail in these areas, as we will almost surely do, we are covered by His grace.
These verses in Ephesians remind me that even when I fail, we have a God who is the perfect example of these qualities. Kind. Tenderhearted. Forgiving. And as we let God’s Word sink into our hearts and transform our minds, He is faithful to make us more like Him.
And maybe one day, I’ll have a daughter who tells sweet stories about her own momma. I might not be the perfect example of kindness, but I can point to the One who is.
~ Diving Deeper ~
Have you known someone who was exceptionally kind?
Have you asked God to transform you — from the inside out — through His Word?